Ilocos priest also ridicules unwed mothers

photo from the blog My Happy Thoughts

photo from the blog My Happy Thoughts

There was no video clip, no recording whatsoever, but Rose (not her real name) still vividly remembers the incident at the St. William’s Cathedral in Laoag a few years back.

There were three other babies to be baptized that day and the priest asked for the fathers to gather in front. When the priest saw that the young woman was alone with her son, he asked where the father was. Rose, a single mom, said there wouldn’t be anyone. Laughing sarcastically the priest asked, with the whole congregation listening, “Apay, awan kadi isuna idi inaramidyo dayta?” (Why, wasn’t he there when you did it?) The priest went on to publicly scold Rose, who was left by her boyfriend even before she knew she was pregnant. The young woman, made to feel ashamed of herself, was on the verge of tears while the priest, insisting that a father is needed to raise the child, did not begin the ceremony. It was then that Rose’s uncle stepped forward and asserted, “I’ll stand up for this child.”

This incident, dear karikna, is not an isolated case. I have personally talked to other sources who have confirmed this priest’s habit of shaming single mothers. And there are surely other members of the clergy who do the same and prefer judgment and condemnation over God’s overflowing grace, love, and compassion. One priest, also from the diocese, made another woman cry on a day that should have been her happiest moment. Impatient about the wedding running a few minutes late, the priest began the ceremonies even when the bride was yet to arrive. The bride cried a river and ruined her make up, and not because of joy.

As for Rose who felt the hurt rushing back to her upon learning that a teenage mom was similarly shamed in Cebu, she only wishes that no person would be subjected to the same public humiliation she went through. But because there was no viral video to upload and no outrage from the public, this priest who is currently assigned in a garlic-producing town in southern Ilocos Norte, remains unlike Cebu’s Fr. Romeo Obach who has publicly apologized, and even more unlike Pope Francis who finds no difficulty saying, “Who am I to judge?”

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3 responses to “Ilocos priest also ridicules unwed mothers

  1. Tatsulok

    Then lets make this sensational! Good for him there’s no viral video. Tsk tsk. Haan da man agkasta kasta . Who are they not to baptize a child? They shud have inspired and encourage these single mom intead of humiliate. Kagurak man.

  2. Reader

    Indeed, there are a number of incidents where we get to hear inappropriate comments from these priests. In a necrological service in the metro, I heard one tell the deceased’s old relative, “lola, overstaying na kayo sa mundo. Susunod na kayo.” silencing the entire family.
    However, I think it is better to cite the priest’s name ala Cebu viral video instead of making a blind item which just worsens the tarnished image of the diocese. Well, just my two cents, Herdy.

    All the best! 🙂

  3. damaso

    at may pari umaabuso ng mga minors na lalaki at nakikipagtalik sa may asawa at anak, minsan sa mismong parish o kaya sa sementeryo……….

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